Updated: Aug 31
Although it might feel like you're alone in how you feel, the feeling of being an "imposter" is extremely common. However, that feeling is a terrible one - trust me, I feel that way sometimes too and it's not fun! So, I compiled a list of 7 tips on how to overcome your imposter syndrome and prosper in your career.
First - What is Imposter Syndrome?
Imposter syndrome often occurs when you have feelings of self-doubt or even feeling like you're a fraud in whatever you're doing, whether it be career-wise, educational, or just in your daily life. This often makes you feel anxious and incompetent in the work you're doing which heavily impacts your performance. However, this fear can be conquered with a few tips to help calm your thoughts and remember the person you are.
Remember that Everyone Has this Feeling
Ever heard of the saying, "Fake it 'til you make it" - that's exactly what everyone is doing in life. No one starts out in their career absolutely knowing everything, you need to start somewhere, and learn and grow as you go.
Imposter syndrome is common when people start a new job because they often feel overwhelmed with the work that needs to be done, especially if they have little to no experience! But guess what? THAT'S NORMAL! Co-workers and managers are there to guide you and help you through your work so that you can learn - so don't be afraid to ask questions or ask for help!
Learn to Ground Yourself
If you feel incompetent and like you're not good enough to do something, you often get an overwhelming amount of anxiety and fear that builds up inside you. If this happens, I want you to remember how to ground yourself. Nothing can help you unless you first try to calm your mind and realign your spirit.
Close your eyes. Breathe in for 5 seconds. Hold for 5 seconds. Breathe out for 5 seconds. Repeat that 5 times.
Reach out to Loved Ones
Sometimes, you just need to vent and let all the built-up frustrations out. Reach out to a friend, talk to a parent or sibling, speak to someone who you know will understand you and validate your feelings. You should never feel embarrassed about having imposter syndrome, as I said, everyone feels it! So let everything out - it might be the only thing you need to feel better!
Write Down Your Achievements
Every little victory, any of the big goals that you achieved, anything you're proud of - write it down. You can write it in a journal or on a post-it, just have it tangibly so that you can look at it and remember who the f*** you are! Even if your smallest achievement is just being able to get out of bed in the morning - you accomplished that and should be PROUD! You are surrounded by so much success, big and small, that you have earned, so don't let a feeling of doubt ruin that for you!
Don't Forget the Power of Positive Affirmations
I've been really into clubhouse lately, and for the past 3 days, I've listened in on the Influencer Collective's "Morning Motivation: Affirmations + Daily Goals." It's really inspiring to hear everyone's positive affirmations and hear the reason why they're choosing that specific statement for the day. Everyone has their good and bad days, but it's what we choose to put our focus on and how we reset the mind that allows us to feel better.
Again, get a piece of paper and write down 3 positive affirmations that you want to feel. It could be anything you want, just as long as they make you feel good. After you write them down, leave them in a spot that you will see every day - on your mirror, your nightstand, the fridge, etc. I want you to see those 3 positive affirmations and every time you do, say them out loud! You need to manifest those feelings - the more you repeat, the more they become true.
I personally love the following;
I am healthy. I am wealthy. I am rich. I am THAT bitch.
Just kidding... but I mean, if it works, why not!
Rip Up Those Negative Thoughts
On the flip side of the previous tip, I want you to write down every negative thought that comes into your head. Then, rip up the paper into as many pieces as you need to let out your frustrations and believe that those words won't affect you anymore!
This is inspired by Marie Forleo, which I read in her book "Everything is Figureouteable," and you're essentially pulling out these bad thoughts into something tangible and destroying them before they can hurt you.
Remember Who You Are
You are not anyone but yourself. What I mean is, why are you comparing yourself to others when you are your own unique person? Don't let comparison be your downfall.
Remember tip #4? Look at all you've accomplished! Everyone is learning and growing at their own pace, you just need to take that leap of faith in order to reach your next big achievement! I believe in you, and I probably don't even know you! So, be kind to yourself; believe in yourself.
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